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“IF you’re going to look for a husband, go to America or Europe.” Those words were from a well-travelled Asian who I met at a speed-dating event one night.Upon hearing them, I felt like this bleak cynicism about the Australian dating scene pierced open a sleeping concern.I follow up on this idea briefly with Dr Gilbert Caluya, a research fellow at the University of South Australia, who traces its potential origins in the 15th century.He also tells me a combination of “a whitewashed mainstream media”, “historical racial division of beauty” and Australia’s “Yellow Panic” led to this climate of “racially homogenous desire” — which we call sexual racism now.Min says it often comes off as fetishising, which “can sometimes be a negative thing because people come in with an idea or stereotype of you.
____________ “ARE you familiar with the term sexual racism?Between the usual fuzziness of Lana Del Ray music and judgements of people’s clothing, an ever-hungry thought — “Am I single because I’m Asian? Does being a gay Asian, or “Gaysian” for those who like combining words, affect your dating experiences because of the way people perceive you romantically?I set out to try and find what common stories were shared among gay Asian-Australians, and what to expect from just being born into this body.“There’ve been times when I imagine how easier it’d be if I were born white and looked down on my culture as weaker and subservient.
“Luckily, I’ve grown out of this phase and I now look at my Chinese heritage as one of my greatest assets.” Joe suggests that after accepting themselves as gay, there is a second coming of age where one comes to accept and embrace their Asian heritage — just as he has.
“I’ve had people tell me that because Simon’s type is tall and Asian, that he’d just trade up to someone younger and hotter when I age in a few years — or even a hot white guy,” Joe says.